Home parenting parents determine the child's independence. Children aged 2-3 years had in fact can be trained independently. But not a few toddlers who are accustomed to doing something with the help or the "intervention" caregivers and parents. Children are always served their needs. If you have this, do not be surprised if a child is difficult to be independent because they already completely served.
But take it easy, you can still change the pattern already established that. Here's how to change it,
1. Compact
Talking to children and people in the neighborhood, the grandfather, grandmother, and caregiver. The goal is that there equality of treatment of children so that what becomes the target is reached.
All should be under one command, namely parents, how the methods to be pursued in giving learn to children.
2. Be patient
Next, begin to implement the program give learning children. Avoid angry when children are "old" to do something. Remember, everything takes the process.
3. Communication
Convey what the expectations of parents. Just say, for example, "already a big brother. So, from now Big Brother can bathe themselves, yes."
Give directions in a flat voice and short, not too fast because the child's attention span is still short. Like, "Yes, now go to shoes and socks, yes. Store in shoe rack." It could also be with the phrase, "Let whoever is the most rapid wear shoes, father or brother?"
4. Consistent
When children get bored, feel inadequate, feel forced, it will fail your program to train the child independently. Tell him, "All this needs you. If you do not want to eat alone, I'll feel hungry." So, still give support, not aid.
5. Appreciation
When the child managed to achieve a target of independence, give rewards that make children feel proud of himself. The child will feel confident and believe that it is capable of doing yourself.
It is important to remember, ask the child to do something does not mean you do not care or do not want to watch the child. Other people might judge you as "Queen or King Tega", leave it alone. After all, you do so without violence, threats, or punishment. In principle, you want to change the paradigm has always helped and this diladeni. What also needs to be remembered, the future of competition in the era of very tight. When children are not independent from an early age, he was not ready for it.
But take it easy, you can still change the pattern already established that. Here's how to change it,
1. Compact
Talking to children and people in the neighborhood, the grandfather, grandmother, and caregiver. The goal is that there equality of treatment of children so that what becomes the target is reached.
All should be under one command, namely parents, how the methods to be pursued in giving learn to children.
2. Be patient
Next, begin to implement the program give learning children. Avoid angry when children are "old" to do something. Remember, everything takes the process.
3. Communication
Convey what the expectations of parents. Just say, for example, "already a big brother. So, from now Big Brother can bathe themselves, yes."
Give directions in a flat voice and short, not too fast because the child's attention span is still short. Like, "Yes, now go to shoes and socks, yes. Store in shoe rack." It could also be with the phrase, "Let whoever is the most rapid wear shoes, father or brother?"
4. Consistent
When children get bored, feel inadequate, feel forced, it will fail your program to train the child independently. Tell him, "All this needs you. If you do not want to eat alone, I'll feel hungry." So, still give support, not aid.
5. Appreciation
When the child managed to achieve a target of independence, give rewards that make children feel proud of himself. The child will feel confident and believe that it is capable of doing yourself.
It is important to remember, ask the child to do something does not mean you do not care or do not want to watch the child. Other people might judge you as "Queen or King Tega", leave it alone. After all, you do so without violence, threats, or punishment. In principle, you want to change the paradigm has always helped and this diladeni. What also needs to be remembered, the future of competition in the era of very tight. When children are not independent from an early age, he was not ready for it.